Question: Dear Hope+Wellth I’m losing my confidence and I think it correlates to my style or lack thereof. I’m a 40 something single mom with work and kids, so it’s just not something I think about very often anymore. I want to get back to that. How do I find what my personal style is now?

Answer: Hi, I’m Arlinda, a style advisor for MoodWellth and I love questions like these. Let me start by saying that I am also a 40 something (48 to be exact) mom. I work, have a family and have all of these other hats that I wear that many of us moms always have. Sometimes it’s a lot more than we ask for, right, but we do find the strength, the courage, the time and the dedication to get things done…just like style. If you want to feel better about your outside appearance, you have to put a little love into it. Sometimes, we feel really good on the inside, but it’s not translating on the outside and that’s where style becomes more than just clothes—it becomes a form of self-expression and self-care. What we choose to wear can significantly impact how we feel about ourselves, lifting our spirits or making us feel more confident when we need it most. As we age in a society that often overlooks or undervalues the beauty of growing older, it can feel like a constant battle to maintain self-worth and positivity. Embracing our personal style, no matter our age, becomes a powerful way to reclaim our narrative, resist societal pressures, and protect our mental health. Feeling good on the outside isn’t about conforming to trends; it’s about celebrating who we are, where we’ve been, and where we’re going.

So, to answer your question, “how do I find out what my personal style is now?” Intention. You had style before, but maybe it looked different, or maybe it was shaped by different circumstances. Now, it’s about being intentional in how you choose to present yourself to the world. It’s about taking stock of where you are in life, acknowledging how your tastes or needs might have evolved, and understanding that style isn’t static. Just like you, it grows, changes and adapts with each season of life. The goal is to align your outer appearance with your inner essence, allowing both to shine through in harmony.

Finding your personal style as you age isn’t about trying to keep up with what’s new or what others think you should wear. It’s about reflecting on what makes you feel most like yourself—confident, comfortable and authentic. Think about the pieces in your wardrobe that bring you joy and consider why they do. Is it the way they fit, the color, the texture or how they make you feel powerful or serene? Start there and let that guide you in creating a wardrobe that celebrates your unique journey.

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