hispanic couple kidQuestion: Dear Hope+Wellth, my partner and I are drifting apart while raising our kids. How can we reconnect without adding more stress to our plates?

Answer: Thanks for submitting this question. It is quite common for couples to drift apart after having children and though reconnecting with your partner while raising kids is challenging, it’s absolutely possible if you approach it with intention and a bit of creativity. The first step is to prioritize communication. Sit down together and talk openly about how you’re feeling—not to point fingers, but to express your needs and understand each other better. Letting go of ego in these conversations is key. It’s not about who’s right or wrong; it’s about working as a team to nurture your relationship. Even just a few minutes a day dedicated to checking in can help you both feel seen and valued.

If you have access to reliable support—whether it’s family, friends, or a trusted babysitter—don’t hesitate to lean on them. Even an hour or two away from the daily grind can be transformative. But if support isn’t available, there are other ways to carve out time. Taking a day off work at the same time, for example, can create a pocket of uninterrupted togetherness while the kids are at school or daycare. Another option is to stay up just 30 minutes later a couple of nights a week after the kids go to bed. It doesn’t have to be elaborate; simply sitting together, talking, or sharing a quiet moment can strengthen your connection over time.

The key to all of this is intention. Life will always be busy, but when you intentionally prioritize your relationship, even small actions can feel deeply meaningful. A kind note, a genuine “thank you,” or a warm hug can go a long way in reminding each other that you’re in this together. Remember to make room for fun, too. It’s easy to lose sight of the joy you once shared when life is full of responsibilities, but laughter and play—even in small doses—can reignite that spark.

Finally, remind yourselves that you’re a team, not just as parents but as partners. Facing the challenges of parenting together can actually strengthen your bond if you approach it with mutual support and appreciation. It’s not about finding huge amounts of extra time; it’s about consistently showing up for each other in small, intentional ways. Over time, these efforts can create a deeper connection that carries you through even the busiest days.