I am a licensed therapist and my motivation for this career path came from being the child of a mother who struggled with mental illness until her untimely death when I was exactly one week away from my 17th birthday. This event, along with other traumatic ones, influenced what I call a “sad spark” within myself.
To me, living a life of confidence without compromise means unapologetically embracing my identity, values and vision, no matter the circumstances. As a BIPOC woman, I’ve learned that confidence is not about perfection but about showing up authentically, even when the world tells you to shrink.
Living a life of confidence without compromising who you are means embracing the fullness of your authentic self and unapologetically stepping into your power. For me, it’s about aligning my life and decisions with my core values, my purpose, and the vision I hold for myself—not the expectations others place on me. It’s about understanding that confidence doesn’t come from being perfect; it comes from being real.
For most of my life, my relationship with my mother was defined by an unspoken set of rules and expectations that felt like an emotional minefield. The constant comparisons between me and my siblings, the silent treatment whenever I dared to deviate from her way and the unrelenting criticism were part of my daily reality. It was a relationship where peace existed only as long as I was agreeable and compliant
Emotional rest is one of those things many of us don’t even realize we’re missing until we’re completely drained. Imagine you’re constantly carrying a bucket of water, filling everyone else’s cups, and never stopping to refill your own. It might not feel heavy at first, but over time, the weight becomes unbearable.
Healing is a complex and deeply personal journey that often requires time, patience, and self-compassion. However, there are certain behaviors that can significantly hinder the healing process. Whether it’s waiting for external validation or being overly self-critical, recognizing and addressing these behaviors is crucial for effective healing and personal growth.